• Sarah Bogdanski

Why You Shouldn't Give Up on Plan A

Updated: Feb 8, 2020

NYC Life Coach

“What do you REALLY want?”

That’s the question I asked my client, Janet*, during our first coaching session together. She was on a career path she wasn’t very passionate about, and deep down always held on to the hope of landing her dream job in a different field. During our conversation, she mentioned that going after her dream would be her plan A, and staying in her current career path and advancing would be her plan B.

Janet wasn’t sure about Plan A, though. She believed it was nearly impossible because she’d need to navigate through the job market in a field where she had no connections or prior experience. She admitted she felt stuck and as though she had exhausted every effort, and was ready just to settle for Plan B and figure out how to grow in her current field. To add to this sense of defeat Janet was experiencing, her confidence was at an all-time low.

After some pointed questions where I had her dig deep, she agreed she’d give Plan A a try for now... but keep Plan B on the back burner just in case Plan A didn’t work out.

Fast forward a month and a half later. Janet was working really hard toward Plan A, but there wasn’t much movement yet. She felt defeated and was ready to give up on her dream, and resort to her Plan B, which she was sure she could achieve.

But I didn’t let her.

I sensed that she was succumbing to the easier thing to do, which was to give up and stay in her comfort zone.

As her coach, I knew I needed to guide her outside of it. I told her “when you put energy toward something, energy will be generated.” I used the analogy of starting a fire in the woods with two sticks, and working those two sticks for a while to cause friction, some smoke, and eventually to ignite a fire. Energy creates energy.

I gently led Janet through this mental hurdle she was facing, and she once again agreed not to give up on Plan A.

For the next six weeks, Janet worked her tail off. I witnessed her transformation, as she went from someone just accepting life as it was, to someone who wasn’t going to take it any longer and figure out how to make it all happen. She had a new sense of determination, focus, and optimism.

After these intense six weeks, I’m beyond thrilled that Janet has not only gotten a new job but her PLAN A job!!!

This experience was a huge reminder of why you shouldn’t give up on your Plan A just yet.

If you have a dream of what you REALLY want, and it feels impossible to get there, it might be right around the corner…

Here are three things to ask yourself if you are ready to give up on your dreams:

1. Have you given all the energy you can give to this? Be honest with yourself. Have you tried everything to achieve your dream? Sometimes it takes the help of a friend or coach to point out that you haven’t.

2. Have you tried to accomplish your dream in a new, different way? Achieving your goals is typically never straightforward, and you may need to try something you’ve never done before to get there.

3. Ten years from now, will you regret giving up on this dream? It’s not always easy, but try to project into your future self, and determine as to whether or not you’ll have regrets later on. Time passes quickly, and ten years from now will be here before you know it.

Remember that your potential is unlimited! And your dreams might be right in front of you. It might just mean giving it more time and energy, working with a mentor or coach to guide you, or trying to approach it from a new angle.

In just three months, Janet went from "I can't" to "I DID!"

Your dreams are waiting for you to achieve them. Don’t give up just yet.

What is one step you can take this week toward your Plan A? Share below!

*Name changed for confidentiality purposes.

#dreams #goals #success #advice #greatness

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