Five New Year self-reflection ideas
Updated: Feb 8, 2020
As we embark on a new year, here are some ways to reflect on how far you've come and plan for where you want to go next!
So go grab a cup of hot tea, wrap yourself in a blanket in a cozy space and grab your journal...
1. Writing exercise: What did I learn?
When you think about this last year, what did you learn about yourself? Your career? Your habits? Your relationships? Your finances? Your health? Make a list of all the learnings you had. Let your mind go and just jot down anything that comes to mind. I bet it's more than you realize! Once you write it down, reflect back to what happened to lead to this learning. What got you to that point? What did you learn about yourself, where you are right now in life, that you didn't know before? It's important to pinpoint the specifics, because this awareness will help you on your journey forward.
2. Say thank you.
Think about everyone who helped you along the way this past year, or just did something nice for you. Maybe you have a colleague who always treated you to coffee (like I had!) or perhaps a friend was there for you during a difficult time, and really listened. Whatever or whoever it was, think about how you can thank them. A simple handwritten note or card goes a long way, especially this day and age when everyone is glued to their phone! Whenever I receive a card or handwritten note, I am always so nicely surprised. Make a list of who needs to be thanked, buy some notecards, and get writing!
3. Say goodbye...
To things and people who don't make you happy or add to your life in some way - and vice-versa. If you can't say goodbye, think about creating a healthy distance from them. Life is too short to be in bad company, in a negative place, or with habits that only hurt you or others. Plus, the more these negative people, influences, or habits take up space in your life, the less space you have for the better, positive things and people that will bring your more joy and happiness. Our lives can only hold room for so much, so really consider what's being held in yours.
4. Get excited! And write it down!
With a new year comes a feeling of optimism and hope. New opportunities. New goals. New adventures. Allow yourself to drift into a happy place thinking about all the awesomeness this new year may bring. Maybe it will bring a new relationship, a new direction in your career, or newfound courage to go after something you've been thinking about. Once you get excited, allow your mindset to shift into this positive place. Write down your "What I want this year" list and don't hold back. As you can see, I'm a firm believer in writing things down! I once wrote down that I wanted to become a Huffington Post writer, and just a few weeks into the new year I did it!
5. Decide your priorities and goals for the new year.
So maybe you want to drop 10 lbs., go on three dates a week, and get promoted by March. It's great to have goals, but make sure they are realistic and won't drive you further from them before you get in the groove. The best way to achieve your goals is by taking small, measurable steps. Typically, when we try to do it all, or take too big of a step, we end up not getting very far. Decide what your top priorities are. Write them down, and then consider what action items you will take and when you will take them, to help you get there. Consider enlisting in support - like a friend, coworker, therapist or lifecoach - depending on your specific goals. Remember that success is never really done on one’s own, and it is totally, 100% OK to ask for help!
Alright, now that you have those five quick tips - go for it! And feel free to share anything you’re looking forward to in this upcoming year, below!